Sunday, January 4, 2009

Why Did You Start Blogging Part 3

Robin is an ex client who was transfered to the midwest several months ago. She emailed me asking about a site that helps you set goals(for profit). Here is my response to her. After I wrote the email I thought it partially answered the question "Why Did You Start Blogging" that I addressed back in October and November. I have a few more reasons and will write about them in the coming months. Maybe.

Hi Robin,

No. I have never seen that site before. I looked at it and it is structured like a MasterMinding could be powerful if you do it. That seems to be the problem with people...they start something and do not finish it or they want something and they stop before they get it.

Are you looking for support? Or accountability? Goal setting and keeping goals requires both for some people.

Along those same lines of getting on track and staying on it..., I started a blog and I like that process. I write about whatever happens to come out when I sit down to type. I have found that if I plan something too much I tend to avoid it for a various reasons. So for me, it is just more openness to the process of blogging. When I first went into the field of psychology, I remember this type of communicating being referred to as a, "stream of consciousness.” I just start typing and have no idea where it will lead me. I can’t edit too much or I would never write anything either. I have learned a lot about myself through blogging.

I am surprised that anyone reads my blog but there are people that do. I feel supported from people out there and I give support right back, not always the same people involved in the exchanges but neither is it that way in real life. I doubt I will ever meet anyone who's blog I follow or anyone who follows mine, although, as we know, anything is possible. One thing is for sure, they all seem like incredible people who write much better than I do.

I am honest with my feelings and I think that is what makes blogging so rewarding. At first, it was hard to share anything that made me feel vulnerable but I have now written from the centermost part of my being and felt relieved to have a place to share those deep feelings. Clicking ‘publish’ can be powerful in many ways too. I have never felt judged by anyone out there. It is a place to sort through feelings. Actually, it is like free therapy- you know all the answers are inside don’t you?

Blogging takes effort and I find it to be an interesting exchange of energy. It is what works in my life right now. I write about whatever suits me for the day...affirmations, care giving, being in a relationship, my mother, being a lesbian, being me, being honest. I try not to put any pressure on myself about blogging either. I have my own built in filters and am well aware of the risks. I choose to risk rather than not help myself with what the Universe has provided. I hope you don't think me condescending to mention quietly that we are all living our own soap opera, comedy, drama, all the time anyway, so why not be real with it? Blogging has become part of the life adventure for me.

I have to admit, I am more of a reader than a writer but there is definitely a connecting the dots thing that happens in cyberspace. You know that I believe all of us are both teachers and students to each other in all of our relationships. People are so interesting and have such varied viewpoints on any given subject. I have some fabulous teachers. Anything at all in the whole world you are interested in, I guarantee you that, there is blog about it and it not there will be one soon. Like attacks like you know. We all have something to contribute.

Hope I didn’t overload you.


What do you think is the best part of blogging?


Arial Ray said...

I started blogging because I had a lot to say, and nobody to talk to. I've always written, it's something I love to do, and blogging for me is a public extension of my journal. I record things on my blog that I cannot yet tell important people in my life, like my family. And I've received a lot of support over the last six months, which has helped me to overcome my fears and move forward.

By the way, I think you are a very good writer!

Margo Moon said...

For me, the best moment is when a stray word spoken by a friend, a look on my partner's face, or something one of the pets does strikes me just right, and a story starts to unfold around that moment. Then all the details begin to gather, and soon there it is - a new post! Since mine is a fiction blog, it's like legal lying.

That's what I like about it. Well, that and the money, of course.

Lover of Life said...

I think blogging allows one to dip in and out of other people's lives, and share parts of one's own, without fallout. I feel connected yet aloof. I care, but I am not responsible. I am throughly entertained and amazed by all of the wonderful people out there. Plus, you get to just write whatever you feel like writing without worrying whether or not anyone else wants to read it. I, too, am a constant student of psychology and human development - it is my education, but also my lifelong interest. Blogging feeds that need.

Hahn at Home said...

I like the people connection. Finding people who have things in common with me or a shared perspective of the world or a particular thing or moment.

Two people I consider very close friends are people I've never met. They help keep me laughing and my brain firing.